Topics Covered: Communication Skills and Interpersonal Effectiveness
Character Skill: Respect
I pulled another lesson from my new book and modified it to work with my Friendship Unit and our Character Skill, Respect. I used this specific lesson with my 1st grade friends.
We began reviewing how to be a number 1 listener and why it’s important, followed by how we practice respect.
I told them that our lesson today would give them more ideas on how to show respect AND help them be good friends.
As a disclaimer, if you don’t have the Bucket Filling Book yet . . . BUY IT! I would say that 1st graders are most mesmerized by it and just for fun’s sake, read the book to them and watch how excited they get to fill up each others buckets!
Anyways, I started the lesson by reading them the Bucket Filling Book and talking about how filling buckets means showing respect to each other.
After the book, we began talking about how we act and thinking about if our actions fill or dip into buckets. How we act lets other people decide if they want to be our friend or play with us. We stay by people that make us feel comfortable. I told them that we were going to look at how different animals acted and think of them as our friends.
Monkey Friends – Monkeys are silly and noisy all the time. So, monkey friends act silly all the time. Usually our monkey friends like to talk and joke around. They never take things seriously. They are funny and make us laugh, but if they are doing it at the wrong time, it sometimes gets them in trouble. When they get in trouble that bugs us. Monkey friends want to fill buckets, but sometimes are too busy being silly to fill anyone’s bucket.
Shark Friends – Sharks are always aware of what’s going on around them. Sometimes they swim around looking for something to eat, but if you mess with them they will attack or bite you. Shark friends don’t remember to think about your feelings. They say and do things without thinking about if it will hurt their friends. Shark friends try to fill buckets, but usually dip into buckets because they get angry very easily.
Snake Friends – Some snakes are good, and some are not. You never really know if it’s a good snake or a bad snake just by looking at it. Snake friends are hard to trust. They might play with you one day and the next day they say they won’t be your friend. Snake friends confuse us. They fill and dip into buckets a lot each day. They make it hard to keep a full bucket.
Turtle Friends – Turtles like to hide in their shells. Turtle friends are normally shy, nervous, or scared. They may be nice, but we can’t tell because they are usually too shy, nervous, or scared to talk to us or to play. Turtle friends like being by themselves the most. They really want to fill buckets, but are too afraid someone will dip into their bucket if they start to talk or play.
Lamb Friends – Lambs like to follow around their shepherd. They think everything you do is a good idea and so they just follow you around. It makes us feel good when lamb friends follow our lead, but sometimes it gets annoying. We like to have our friends come up with ideas, too! Lamb friends fill our buckets for a while, but once we get annoyed, our buckets stop filling up.
Teddy Bear Friends – I know a teddy bear isn’t a real animal. But your teddy bear or stuffed animal is there for you no matter what. Teddy bear friends are good listeners, they will always play with you, they make you feel cozy right before bed. You can always depend on a teddy bear friend. Teddy bear friends fill buckets all the time.
No matter what kind of friend we think we are, we all have a little teddy bear friend inside of us because we all know how to fill buckets.
After this discussion, I have the boys think (honestly) about which friend they are most like. I was surprised to see how many were honest. And most wanted to pick two animals.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I had PLENTY who circled that they were a teddy bear friend, but I felt like I needed to give you an example of just how honest they were.
On the back of their paper, I have them draw a picture of two people filling each others buckets and being teddy bear friends.
Look at these little bucket fillers . . .